Please, Ma…..Don’t Make Me!

Today, at work, I heard that a coworker’s daughter has a friend who is turning 16 and is saddened that her birthday celebration is bittersweet because no one on her ‘invite’ list has responded that they will go.
I’m not sure who to blame for this. Is it the parents of the kids who haven’t even responded or the kids themselves for being rude?
This story made me remember this. As many of my friends know, my mother was confined to a wheel chair/hospital bed for the majority of her short life due to MS. This didn’t stop her, however, from keeping tight control of her household; particulary her children.
Coming home, one day, in my 16th year, I was ‘summoned’ to her room. ‘Eddie, I got a phone call from Mrs. Williams today. ‘You remember her daughter, Nancy, don’t you…..you went to grammar school with her………remember?’
By this time, I was sweating……….’Nancy needs a date to her junior prom at Notre Dame High School……you’re going’.
My reaction can only be compared to Jimmy Cagney’s performance in ‘Angels with Dirty Faces’ where, in the death row scene, he is dragged to the electric chair, crying, screaming, grabbing the radiator, etc.. If you haven’t seen this movie, I’ve attached the scene so you can get a visual of what I went through……My performance didn’t work and guess what? I went and actually had a nice time. So, to the kids who don’t want to go to my coworker’s daugther’s friends party and, particularly, to the parents of these ‘Im too busy to respond’ young people……… too bad…you’re missing out on a good time…..

Published by Ed Kowalski

Ed Kowalski is a Pleasant Valley resident, media voice, and policy-focused professional whose work sits at the intersection of law, public policy, and community life. Ed has spent his career working in senior leadership roles across human resources, compliance, and operations, helping organizations navigate complex legal and regulatory environments. His work has focused on accountability, risk management, workforce issues, and translating policy and law into practical outcomes that affect people’s jobs, livelihoods, and communities. Ed is also a familiar voice in the Hudson Valley media landscape. He most recently served as the morning host of Hudson Valley This Morning on WKIP and is currently a frequent contributor to Hudson Valley Focus with Tom Sipos on Pamal Broadcasting. In addition, Ed is the creator of The Valley Viewpoint, a commentary and narrative platform focused on law, justice, government accountability, and the real-world impact of public policy. Across broadcast and written media, Ed’s work emphasizes transparency, access to justice, institutional integrity, and public trust. Ed is a graduate of Xavier High School, Fordham University, and Georgetown University, holding a Certificate in Business Leadership from Georgetown. His Jesuit education shaped his belief that ideas carry obligations—and that leadership requires both discipline and moral clarity. He lives in Pleasant Valley.

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