A Valley Viewpoint Narrative
There comes a moment when public policy stops being an abstraction.
It becomes the empty chair in your family.
For me, that moment came when my 17-year-old niece was murdered by someone who was in this country illegally.
She was a child. She had a future. She had people who loved her and expected to watch that future unfold.
Instead, my family was left with a loss that cannot be reversed, rehabilitated, or explained away. No policy paper softens it. No television debate makes it smaller. No statistic brings her back.
That is why I struggle when discussions of violent crime and illegal immigration are answered with phrases like “the vast, vast majority.”
I understand statistics. Public policy should be informed by data. Most migrants are not violent criminals, and acknowledging one horrific crime does not make an entire population guilty.
But moral responsibility cannot be outsourced to averages.
For the victim, there is no “vast majority.” There is only the one person who committed the crime and the one institutional failure that may have allowed it to happen.
One violent offender is not a rounding error.
One murdered child is not an acceptable cost of government dysfunction.
Here is where my story refuses to fit neatly into anyone’s political script.
I worked at Lincoln Hall, where I interacted directly with unaccompanied minors. As part of my job, I personally brought Jesuit priests onto campus to provide religious services.
I looked those young people in the eye.
Many were frightened. Many were displaced. Many carried trauma no child should have to carry. They were not “thugs.” They were children caught in chaos, searching for safety, stability, and some reason to believe their lives could still become something better.
I did not see an immigration status when I looked at them.
I saw children.
That experience taught me compassion. My niece’s murder taught me the cost of treating accountability as optional.
Both experiences are part of me.
Neither erases the other.
That is why I reject the false choice at the center of our immigration debate—the idea that we must either dehumanize migrants or remain silent about the people harmed when the system fails.
I will do neither.
Demanding immigration enforcement is not the same as condemning every immigrant. Recognizing the humanity of migrants does not require pretending every person who enters the country poses no risk.
A functioning government must be capable of recognizing both truths.
It must treat vulnerable children humanely.
It must provide legitimate due process.
It must adjudicate claims fairly.
It must enforce lawful decisions.
And it must remove people who pose a genuine danger to the public.
Those duties are not contradictory.
They are the job.
Yet too often, compassion is discussed as though it belongs exclusively to the person who entered the country unlawfully. The victim disappears. The grieving family becomes politically inconvenient. The preventable failure is buried beneath population-wide statistics and accusations that anyone asking questions must lack empathy.
But my niece had human dignity too.
Her life mattered too.
Her family deserves compassion too.
When people ask, “Where are the murderers and rapists?” as though the victims are imaginary figures invented for political effect, I have an answer.
Ask the families who buried their children.
Ask the parents who still pass empty bedrooms.
Ask the relatives who continue celebrating birthdays with someone permanently missing.
Not every case receives national attention. Not every grieving family appears on television. Media coverage is not the measure of whether a life mattered.
Some families simply carry the loss quietly while the rest of the country moves on to its next argument.
Yes, America’s immigration system is broken. It has been broken for decades.
But decades of failure are not an excuse.
They are an indictment.
A broken system cannot mean no enforcement. Due process cannot become permanent paralysis. Mercy cannot require the abandonment of accountability. Compassion cannot become a weapon used to silence victims.
My family is not asking for collective blame.
We are asking for institutional responsibility.
We are not asking that migrants be treated as less than human.
We are asking that victims not be treated as collateral damage.
We are not asking America to abandon compassion.
We are asking that compassion finally include the people left behind when the system fails.
Enforcement without humanity is not justice.
But compassion without accountability is not justice either.
A moral country must be capable of both.
My niece was seventeen years old.
She should still be here.
Any moral framework that makes room for everyone except the victim is not moral clarity.
It is avoidance.
And my family has paid too high a price to remain silent about it.